Waldorf and Me
Warning, knitting only mentioned in passing!
I mentioned a blog entry or two ago that I like Waldorf. Well, I suppose it is time for me to elaborate. I learned about Waldorf education even before I had a child and I like the general philosophy. I like the education of the whole person - hands, heart and head - I like the connection to the year, to nature, to art and music, to the spirit, etc. It is the big picture things that I seem to connect with and want to embrace. But then I get snagged by the not great things about Waldorf, like:
* Steiner and the controversies that surround him and the cult of personality that can wrap up those who want to preserve his vision wholly intact without allowing it to breathe and grow from the input of other inspired invididuals.
* The Jewish issue. If we were in Israel where the Waldorf Schools follow a Jewish festivals calendar, this would not be an issue. We are not, however. So between the festivals and the general populace at Waldorf Schools, it isn't a "Jewish" place per se. (Now there are Jews, even Jewish teachers, at Waldorf Schools, just not tons. And it isn't secular like public schools.)
* Waldorf Schools, in my personal experience, tend to be fairly insular. Meaning that it is mostly populated by upper middle class white Christian families and people from the alternative parenting groups nearby who are seeking an alternative style school when they do not choose to homeschool. Now I have no objection to seeking community among those who are like you, but sometimes it feels more elitist than community building based on my personal experience.
The two types of families that gravitate toward the Waldorf school then clash. Many times those who choose Waldorf because it is an alternative schooling method that fits their general alternative way of thinking tend to buy into the whole "Waldorf lifestyle" - no media, wool or silk everything, natural toys, knitting (!), needle felting, and generally over-intellectualizing and de-naturalizing in the attempt to be more natural and not over-intellectualizing our children (BTW, I fall into this group FWIW. I just say that so you don't read this so much as disparaging, but trying to paint a picture)
The other group feels some affinity with the lifestyle portrayed as the "Waldorf-ideal" but make little attempt to shape their daily lives around it. It is more of a "I want my kids to grow up surrounded by that" kind of mentality. Perhaps to offset modern life, I don't know. Plus the fact that Waldorf School graduates generally do pretty well if they want to get into "good" colleges.
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Anyway, back to more specifics. Last year we spend a year at the parent/child playgroup at our local Waldorf School. We had a great time, made a bunch of friends, enjoyed learning songs, crafts, etc. So this year we signed back up. It was a totally different experience. We left halfway through the first session, which was a very painful decision for us. We had to really examine our hearts to try to see what we were expecting and wanting from Waldorf education and the Waldorf School. Perhaps the experience failed because it was no longer taking us where we needed to go.
We also, around that time got involved with a Waldorf-inspired start-up preschool closer to home. The people there are lovely and extremely warm and inviting and I want so very much to help there, but I am finding it difficult to connect there. I know that it is totally me. We belong to a playgroup, we go to this preschool on the Tuesday afternoon handwork group days and we do random park days with friends, but we have virtually no Jewish friends. We can't find a synagogue that fits us. One has a decent service, but nothing for kids (12 miles), one is WAY too far away (20 miles) and has very little for kids, one is fairly close (5 miles) and has stuff for kids, but is reform, which we are definately not. There are others, but they are all at that farthest distance away (20ish miles) And of course they are in areas we could not possibly begin to be able to afford (we're talking $500,000 for a 2BR condo)
Anyway, my point is, if I have one, that we are growing away from Waldorf because of a real need to connect with people who are little more like us WRT the way we live our lives. Keeping kosher (and also vegetarian wouldn't be terrible), celebrating Jewish holidays, learning Hebrew, etc etc. I suppose much of this came to a head recently when we attended the baptism of my best friend's baby (Her 4yo son is Ezra's best friend which works out nicely) I realized that the last time Ezra had been to synagogue was at Yom Kippur! And I realized if it was important to me, then I'd better get off my butt and do something about it.